How Do You Handle Disappointment Graciously?
I’ve been thinking a lot about graciousness–not just in dress, or in behavior, but in every aspect of life, including internal thoughts. Obviously throughout life we are faced with disappointments, minor or major, and the way we handle ourselves shows our true colors.
How do you handle disappointment graciously? Recently I watched an influencer go on a multi-story rant against a small hotel in New England because she was not given the room she wanted. In her posts, she highlighted the amount of money she spent, showed a prior complaint she’d made to the hotel, and then showed the end result: an upgraded room. I understand the desire to have what you’ve been promised, and apparently the hotel had promised an upgraded room. But I also cringed at what seemed to me the needless public call-out, instead of simply requesting to speak with the manager and explaining the situation.
In some ways, I feel wary about sharing my disappointments publicly, no matter what they may be. The Internet has long memories, and besides, so many things are private. How we handle ourselves online, and in public, is important, because you never know who is watching. But more than that, I strongly believe that even in private you should always be willing to put your name to your words. Being genuine is important, too.
It is difficult, at times, to handle disappointment well. And it’s easy, especially in this day and age, to act reflexively, to post something that you later regret. We should all show each other a little grace, and save the commentary for trusted friends, if we must comment.
So how do you remind yourself to show compassion and grace?